DLSD Alternative

Over five years ago, as I strolled the online corridors, I heard someone say,  'your brand is the real estate in their mind.' He continued 'Your reputation is what people say when you leave the room.'  I can't remember who it was.  You want people to talk about you. Being lost in obscurity is worse that negative publicity, right? I don't know.  What they say is only what they think and has little to do with your identity.  Focus on building your character - who you truly are. This is your Brand. Those who will miss you when you are gone care about this deeply. 

'There is always a great danger in taking people literally. '  I loved this sentiment by the ad man, Rory Sutherland. Rory goes further to assert, 'there is always a good reason and the Real reason for any action.' My dilemma is really choosing between the two in responding.  Whichever route I take, I know I cannot determine how well I am doing by how people choose to respond.  Because we all have good reasons and real reasons, it's hard to tell whether the butterfly in the folded hand is dead or alive.  Why should anyone be taken seriously? 

I happen to be the least qualified person to write on this subject. One, I don't happen to be very liquid and two I haven't really focused my life on being happy. You know those kind of pips who will prefer to be respected than to be showered with romance? Or those who agree with A. W. TOZER on the question, Would you rather be holy or happy? My take is on those who ask this question are neither students of history, money nor marketing. They are just speculatives, who are always seeking emotional highs toying dangerously in between greed(desire) and fear. Marketing is just a story that makes one feel good to have and bad not to have.  Money makes these stories possible.  History tells you, that happiness is the invention of guys like the Don Draper to sell polythene.  Finally, should a man be defined by the bodily configuration who the woman who pledge allegiance to his throne?  As far as I see, nobody likes to be accepted just by their looks. But Money can't deny yo...

In the last article, I hinted that Deliverables should not be delivered in the name of success. They are important and that's why we should get them done immediately. They don't guarantee nor predict the success of the after event. These Deliverables usually sound S. M. A. R. T.  Specific  Measurable  Attainable  Realistic  Time bound.  My alternative chooses a new paradigm.  A Goal is a clear purpose as to why one should take a risk.  In designing a motivating goal, one must expect the losses otherwise they don't understand the goal itself.  This will save the executive like you, the baggage of unecessary action and focus energies on the results. Goals - are the reason we have our eyes on the ball. What does this mean for you? 

So far my life is best summatized by 2020. It's been unpredictable with highlights of the anticipated next.   I have had a fair share of completed deliverables eg completed university, tried business, learned to code, got a job, saved some cash, even bought myself a suit not to forget asking some beautys out for lunch.  The agony lies in the abstract objectives that have not been realized. The after life promised after fixing a deliverable is not always linearly traced.  What is expected after you complete college? (no internships)  What next after an internship?(flop the interview)  What next after a job? (underemployed)  What next after writing a book?(the world ain't interested)  What next after a date? (the ex is better)  What next after a presentation before thousands? (no sale)  What next after your first million?(inflation hits)  The results have always been surprising. Unexpected!  When I have put my ego on the line, I ...

Even before Social distancing was enforced as a norm, I knew some people mastered the art of ignoring me. Some, only reached out after a while for a handout from my pockets. Meanwhile, other's were only interested in my utility. What is there in me for them? A safer pair of hands.  Well, the realities of my personality whether due to temperance or sheer nurture is that I am my worst critic. My critical demons are tough on me than on anyone I could project them on. Most of the time, I feel I am not enough. Everything is just my fault.  Anyone can blame anything on me. I will take it in.  I know this to be true. I must be imperfect to pursue excellence. Otherwise, the perfectionist bug will drain all my juices. Excellence is an adrenaline for imperfect peeps.  This much is true. I am valuable, even when not being of service. By me being around, someone has the peace of mind that he can reach out and I might share in their world. Some reach out for a spiritual perspecti...

For some of us, the acceptance of a first date is a dream come true. So valuable, is someone just showing up to be with us. We can pay more than just attention at this privilege.  Most of the time, The ship never docks.  Once bitten, it becomes harder to make the invitation the second time. We recline, and accept anyone who will take us. Our choices and intentions seem to always breed misery. On the next level, are those who eat fares. They have no intention of building anything but feel sorry for hurting the expectation of others. They just show up for the thrill, just afraid of missing Out. The reality is tough. Can you expect to be granted permission by a person, who doesn't want to listen but just wants you to keep talking? Or rather face the alternative of stumbling at your blocked Intentions.

There are things we do, that we don't want to do. Somehow, we get cornered to action thoughtlessly. In the end, we will make up meaning for our actions.  This are signs of low self esteem.   We simply can't live with ourselves for turning away carrots by a simple 'No' .  It's sad coz we are programmed to find something to do before we find ourselves- way to just be.  So what are you doing?