DLSD Alternative

It's a good thing to know someone has got your back. It's hard to go life and any human experience worth going through on your own.  If you are on your own through the rough times, you are lonely.  Yet, you can be alone but you know you got people cheering you on. I do not even know what I am writing about. It's so lonely. 

It seems safer to have a title next to your name. With titles, you enjoy the respect and recognition of others who don't really know you but have a rough idea about your existence.  It's good to be a doctor, a pastor, a tutor, a business man, lawyer, politician etc. These labels are important in a society hungry for more and better packaged services. There is also an alternative of putting your name in an an outcome. Based on what you have done without a title, people have enjoyed your generosity.  Though you are a nobody, people have celebrated your showing up. Some will miss you when you are gone and if they do not, you will have served humanity.  Cheers! 

What do you do when you realize you are in a hole? Stop digging, and start climbing up.  This is not a very easy thing to do, especially when every one else is inside their hole digging.  Do you say just say NO! and walk in the lonely path to finding a promise you can say yes to. Or do you just DO IT, and enjoy the thrill of being engaged in something you honestly don't care about.  What will happen if you slowed down, would you enjoy the beauty of life? Is there an alternative view of your life? 

Our generation is bombarded with loads of care. We are always upto the next big thing. Information flows into our domain left, right and center. Some have said we are in an information age, where data is the big oil of our propulsion and transformation.  In such a spectrum, the mind is wrinkled with addiction. We want to be told what we want to hear. If we like, we want to react and still remain anonymous. We want to comment not because we are listening, but because we want to preserve memories of trending topics.  We are just flirting through life. A sad thing. The consequence is we have become less generous and our trust is diminished.  When a mind is full of noise, it becomes hard to communicate as a human being. The narrative of values is rarely weaved into character. We become shallow and wallow in prettiness.  Since everything is fleeting very fast as tweets and we don't want to miss out our rush decisions take route of the less discipline. Just like and you wi...

Most of my companions have this interesting mentality that going into business is just not for them. They tell me they would probably eat all the stock before they have any shares to capitalize on. I also know a good number of folks who employment is just not for them. They never accumulate any wealth and cannot fathom what the heck they don't understand about saving money! I also struggle with the idea of romantic relationships. I just don't understand why most people believe it's what we were made for. I don't know what meaning is extracted about existence when one finds a mate. Some things don't just click on my mind. Mybe it's a heart issue, mine never pumps in that direction. It's risky and scary if not an outright death trap.  A simple paragraph as above is likely to put  me on a spot and deny me a whole lot of opportunities. It's a weakness of mine, and I don't want to deal with it. Why? I give up easily on imposed alternatives. No comments pl...

The line of code breaks, your heart skips a heart beat. The lizard brain panics and you start seeking for assurance. Run to Google and you can't flow with suggestions from the stack overflow community. Everything turns jibberish.  You close your computer, and technically your day is done. You wonder if there is any physical guy within your area code who can help you move to the next step.  The dream to share your app seems to sleep of your fingers. You can feel strength being sucked from your being. You curse the day you graduated with a worthless degree. You shift the blame to your parents, no you cast your cares upon your employer. Life becomes a walk on a tight rope.  At 3Am your sleep is gone. You toss and turn. Soon you find your hands issuing command prompts into your project environment. And soon everything sublimes into the text and you can see the comma that rendered your script invalid.  Everything sips back to life. You know you are learning. You will fail...

In this short experience on earth, we need people, who out of their own volition, do the little things that touch our humanity. I am not talking of professional services who legally have a duty of care.  No. I am talking of the ordinary Sofia who will make soup and knock on our door saying, 'hey, I made this for you'. That's a big emotional risk among a generation nervous about making a living. In this way, egos are put on the line. The vulnerability that exposes our humanity splits the veil of our defenses.

Under the sun, any progress or change of impact is a mental endeavor. So is traveling an exercise for the mind.  We judge our achievement relative to peers who are moving slower than we are. That's why being middle class is just a state of mind. In my opinion, a limbo position betwixt the real shoels of poverty beneath and elusive exponential riches above. Physical distancing means less if our hearts and minds are together. A people of one accord, will desire to meet physical just as a sign of the deep reality within.  You can rush out every morning out of bed only to return to the same bed in the evening. You can collect all you want, but everything that matters will be respectfully be put back in lnto the box. If we are really going anywhere, we are going into spiritual realizations. Otherwise we are only growing our defenses of Control, esteem, and love.  Why are you so distant? 

It's apparent that we went to school to learn how to take and obey authority. In a liberal society,calling for the end of schools, no one gets to discipline and get disciplined, we slowly slip to ignorance.  When we don't have original knowledge in this environment, Google does little to help. Our ignorance balloons to exponential level and our pride cannot slow us down to unlearn what is not so. It pays to be within good counsel. Where one can be directed to risk false beliefs, renounce compromising affiliations, give up on shallow attachments and stop bad habits. A teachable spirit is not Welded to such unreserved ideologies.  Such discipline comes from an economy, where the customer is not crowned and is mostly wrong. 

In my five years in the job market, I have been told Thrice. 'You are a very smart person, this position is not for you' Knowing my background, all I wanted was just some sense of security and assurance that someone will bet on me. I needed a quick hire to believe that my prayers work. I can get a job and be numbered among the lucky few. Overtime, I have turned down a number of opportunities on the basis of 'No that's not for me'. Where does this confidence come from? I have realized that I can be trusted with responsibilities that require my specific skills set. People are looking for people like me because not everyone can be trusted to deliver the outcomes without being nervous.  Trust kicks off fear. Having lived in the ghettos for my entire lifetime. This is true, There are things I CANNOT do because we can't trade TRUST with the market players.  Leave alone drug peddling and prostitution to put food on the table.  How cheap is your trust? 

Times do not last. Nothing on this earth is sure. Some even say tomorrow isn't guaranteed. What's there to wait for? Of course am not one of those who throw caution to the wind for a Y. O. L. O experience. I believe in a day, there is enough to risk and enough to wait for. Today, you can and should enjoy what providence has gifted you with gratitude. Today also, you should sow seeds for bread for another or another day.  In your very day, there should be a sense of urgency balanced with a conservative deliberace that will take you to your preserved future.  I don't know how long it's going to take, while it lasts, enjoy and nurture it.  #A preserved generation 

We all have fears. Some fear failure, others fear success.  Some fear making mistakes, others fear missing out.  Some fear rejection, others fear falling in love.  Some fear losing control, others fear responsibility.  Whatsoever your fear is, it's real.  Fear acknowledges there is pain in the world. If you are paying attention, you are dealing with an anxiety of sorts.If you are going to change anything in life, you will have to shake with fear. Otherwise you are comfortable but not entirely safe.  Fear is not fatal.  Do you like what produce when you tremble with fear? 

Sometimes I dream, will meet the girl I want to marry. I fantasize of our dinner dates, Valentines and photo shoot. The likes and reactions we would be counting as people tag our faces. I also imagine the ideal set up drama for the proposal. How she would shed tears and wrap me around her arms, screaming 'yeees!' as she lifts me from my bent knee. Then shall we have the thrill of all the events leading to our day. A beautiful story.  After the wedding, comes the marriage. Later the gift that comes with its own plate to dine with us.  I project thoughts of our child coming in between us and the temptation to play favorites. Then my child will ask me, "Dad, why are we poor?"

I have noticed with concern the up surge of two-wheelers in our society.  The Boda boda business model is an informal and cheaper way to put food on the table. The middle class now can enjoy food delivered at their door step. Thanks to the rider with a smartphone. A win win.  This article is not about pizza delivery.  Most of us are not in this business. We don't sit to wait for order to come in for us to serve. We are continuously, fitting puzzles in artistic way that will land us a connection.  It takes a long time to know how to communicate what you are doing in life.This is the hard work that matters. It cannot be solved by a brochure, S.E.O or a 30 second video,a college degree is no credible statement.  Sometimes, you wake up just want to take down everything and build the story from scratch. Sometimes, in low Self Esteem you want to widen your benefits, other times you want to narrow down to only those who have given you permission to tell them your story...